DEC 17, 2021
A simple solution to stop self sabotage once and for all
What is stopping you from living life to your fullest potential? Is it the economy, other people’s actions, the government, lack of willpower, or just plain luck? We live in a blame culture these days, where it’s easier to pass responsibility onto others than to take full ownership of everything in our lives, ourselves.
You see when we pass on the responsibility for our own happiness to others and the blame we lay upon them, we are giving up our chance for freedom. When we blame anything other than ourselves for any lack in our lives, we give away our responsibility to change it. When we accept that everything in life is our fault, we change the game.
Taking full responsibility is a game-changer! We... You and I.... give life meaning... Our response to life... is our 'response-ability'.
For there is nothing either good nor bad but thinking makes it so - Hamlet
Life is neutral. Our thinking about life gives it meaning. So anything that comes our way can be good or bad. It’s our thinking that will determine our experience of it. And we create this within ourselves.
At a deeper level, it’s our thinking, about our thinking, that determines our response to life. For instance, we could be OK with not feeling good about events, or our thinking about it could drive us to unwanted behaviors and actions (panic, fear, anger).
So, crucially, what drives this thinking-response within us? What determines our thinking about life? What determines our responses and our actions? The answer lies in our past experiences, and how we reacted to them previously, and by understanding these prior responses - and how they drive our current thinking, behaviors, and actions - we can carve out a new future for ourselves by being at peace with them.
When we unpick this, we discover a newfound responsibility (response-ability) for our own thinking - and by letting go of past hurts - we can ease into a better, more enjoyable future as the co-creators of our experience.
So I’ve talked recently about the Upper Limit Problem.
These are the self-sabotaging moments that we may all have at some stage to keep us safe in what we already know (our safety zone).
These are usually born out of a childhood situation where we were scared, which gave us a feeling of loneliness and prompted us to create our own barriers to keep us secure. A discouraging comment from a loved one or relative, or a feeling of abandonment.
Our reaction to this moment would have been childish and would have sparked a self-created strategy to control the level of hurt we experienced within ourselves. This then manifests in later life as self-sabotage, with the same childish intention of keeping us feeling secure, but usually with the same results. It creates an upper limit to what we can experience in the form of joy and happiness by keeping us in the known.
We get to this upper limit and the self-sabotage kicks in to make sure we don’t break free into new uncharted waters. Relationships, careers, health, money…. They are all a part of this new unexplored territory that kick-starts our memory of past hurt, often subconsciously, and which is why so many of us fail to break through to this next level of success and abundance.
However, it involves work. Introspection works. Hard work. We’ll identify the initial source. We’ll acknowledge it. We will even thank it for its hard work over the years. We’ll then reassign it and move it along to new pastures and create new strategies for your breakthrough into a new future full of happiness, success, and joy.
I am here to offer assistance in this hard journey to your personal freedom as you breakthrough in 2022 once and for all.
If you would like me to help you break free of your limiting upper limits, then click on the link below to get started. I am limiting the number of clients in this program to 6, so it’s first come first served.
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